British Medical Journal
12 April 2003
'Where Worlds Meet' by Dr Aziz Sheikh
Where worlds meet
On concluding the midday prayer, the imam turned to the congregation,
which must have numbered over 100 people, and told them that he had,
that morning, been informed that their friend and fellow worshipper was
making good progress in hospital. Being a visitor to the area, I had no
idea to whom he was referring and paid little attention to the progress
report that followed. The imam's parting advice did, however, catch my
notice: "There is, therefore, no need for you all to visit him today,
and please pass this message on to your family and friends. Also,
please remember that, when you do go, agree visiting timings among
yourselves so you do not attend all together and cause unnecessary
problems for the nurses and doctors."
As someone who knows first hand the central importance of supporting
the ill and dying within the Islamic ethic, I fully appreciate the
communal desire for regular visiting that may be present. My
experiences of working on busy hospital wards, however, have also made
me acutely aware of the logistical difficulties that may result from
large visitor numbers and how these difficulties may be compounded if
people visit outside of the designated visiting times (as many do). The
failure to bridge such differences in perspectives effectively leads to
misunderstanding and resentment, and I have, unfortunately, witnessed
this often. But this need not be the case, for pluralism canthrough
mutual sharing of ideas, experiences, and aspirationsoffer penetrating
insights into the worlds inhabited by others. Respectful interaction
also offers the potential for learning new ways of making better sense
of our own worlds and, in so doing, developing new ways of negotiating
potential areas of conflict without necessarily compromising our
values.
This small incident impressed me in many ways. I was moved by the
concern so evidently on display for a fellow human in difficulty. The
imam's advice was thoughtful and, I hoped, persuasive. Perhaps most
impressive of all, however, was the recognition of the "behind the
scenes" discussions and problem sharing that must have taken place.
Inspired, I made a silent parting prayer for the wellbeing of the
invisible actors and actresses who had momentarily been the centre of
my thoughts, and through whose narrative I had once again been reminded
of the need for, and power of, dialogue.
Aziz Sheikh, NHS/PPP national primary care postdoctoral fellow.
St George's Hospital Medical School, London
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